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Nothing worked but pain because that's what you were conditioned to expect, Poetry.
Think of discipline and punishment as a continuum, with positive discipline on one end and corporal punishment on the other. Using positive discipline methods (redirection, conversation, explanation, etc) sets a child up to expect that. When you move towards the other end of the continuum, into punishment, children come to expect punishment. Once the card of corporal punishment has been played, they understand that their actions could invoke that punishment, and more or less laugh at any attempt to discipline them in another fashion. This is why it's truly best to start off with (and stick to) positive discipline.
Yes, it takes patience. Yes, it takes a lot of hard work. I have a sheet of discipline techniques I keep in my box at work to refer to when I'm feeling short of patience and frustrated. But honestly, if you use positive discipline and stick to it, eventually it becomes second nature to use those techniques.
And yes, it may be judgmental of me, but I stand by my opinion that it's lazy to spank a child.
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If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau
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