Kreal

Hello all, I am new here this is my first time on the forum and boy do I have a heck of a situation for your advice. Here is my background: I'm an honest hard working mid 20's male, I am a long-term relationship type of person, I want a wife. I want children. I have three cats. I own my own home and collect many different classic cars (30+), I've never been to college I work a regular job and I am very frugal with my money. I enjoy knowing that I can come home at night to a loving girlfriend and fall asleep with her in my arms. I don't go to bars, smoke, drink or even have cable television. My goal is to retire early and travel the world so when I met a girl that 'agreed' with all of this, I jumped on it.

Almost two years ago I met a girl through one of her friends and fell in love with her. I don't think most guys would give her a chance after hearing her story, but I did. She lived in a house trailer that was falling apart and had no running water or heat. She has four children with three different fathers. Two of the children are twins and they live with their father I have never met them. She had no car, horrible credit and worked a basic minimum wage job. But she was gorgeous, fun, energetic and very sexual. I believe I let my sexual drive guide me into my decision. Within a week of knowing her I tried my best to repair the water situation in her trailer but to no avail. I gave up and told her to move her and her two children in with me until I figure it out as it was winter time and they were freezing. One a girl age 4, the other a boy a new born. Both with different fathers. The boy's father wants nothing to do with him. The girls father is rarely around. Once a month went by and all was well and I began really liking this girl, I decided she could live with me forever if she liked.

So I put together a kids room, bought them brand new bunk beds, mattresses, a crib for the newborn. She moved in and brought with her nothing. I trusted her immediately, gave her keys to the house and we lived here fine for over a year without any issues. I bought her a car and helped her settle her bills and finances. I was a stand-in father for her daughter, and I was to act as the father for her newborn (now almost 2 years old). She cleaned, cooked and was wonderful to me. We had discussed marriage, and everything was a go. We were happy, or at least I thought we were.

For nearly two years we loved eachother. One big family. Her two children, my 3 cats. Our one year anniversary was a month ago and she had a tattoo of my name put across her left breast, as to show that she is completely committed and I am 'hers', I was honored, some would view this as extreme but I felt honored. She became a manager at her work (still not much pay up from minumum wage, basic fast food job) and I was very proud of her. There are many bisexual girls where she works, its oddly common. She invited one of them over to the house last week to hang out while I was at work. This girl is a pure lesbian, more manly than most men I know, a deeper voice and dresses like a man, many facial piercings, etc. She is a druggie, and just looks like trouble. Not the typical sexy 'lesbian' you would invision. She wants to be a man, she almost is one.

The girl came every day of the week and stayed for hours while I was at work earning a living to pay for the house that keeps her and her children housed and the food in their mouths. I noticed my girlfriend would come home and just throw her clothes on the floor, rarely feed the cats or make sure they had ample water, leave empty wrappers sitting on the counter etc. I am very neat organized person and she always kept the house clean so this was completely a surprise. She would always be sitting on the couch with her new friend, talking about nothing. For hours. While she had the children locked up in their room upstairs ! Yes LOCKED!!

I got a very bad vibe about her friend and her friend would look at me with a glare almost as if she wanted me dead, as I saw the messes growing more around the house as the lack of 'care' about anyone or anything other than her new friendship became evidently clear to me I asked her if there was something going on. When I confronted her alone about it she denied it. She had stopped kissing me, sending me cute text messages and caring about anyone, even her kids. All that mattered to her was her new friend. She defended her like she was a god.

She instantly came up with other 'places to go' with other friends, and I came to find out she never saw those other friends. She was seeing this girl. Every day of the week that week I came home she would be there, both of them sitting on the couch. So I planted a tape recorder which reveiled to me that she was at that girls parents house cheating girl on girl, instead of at the mall with a different friend where she told me before hand. This was only 3 days ago. I let the tape record all day while I was out and about and it recorded, at my house in my living room their sex session, and they both called eachother sensual names, and that they loved eachother. My girlfriend said things like 'How do we act around people, I know how we act in private", "So i cant believe im cheating on my boyfriend with a girl", and the worse "what if he walks in right now and catches us?" to which the lesbian replied "Id stab him to death with this knife", to which my girlfriend said nothing just kept on moaning. the lesbian also mentioned buring my house down, they shoved my 3 cats in a one cat carrier cage to get them out of the way. The kids were locked upstairs for over 6+ hours without them even checking on them.

I came home, before I got the tape recorder to hear the rest and confronted BOTH of them, asked them what I had done wrong, what are we going to do now? They denied ever having done a thing, or having feelings for eachother, just friends 'hanging out'. I told them of my plan to propose to her, spend the rest of my life with her and to love her children as my own as I have done for the past 2 years. It meant nothing. I grabbed the tape recorder and listened to it in private, the lesbian left for work and only my girlfriend remained, she asked me to cuddle with her, but still wouldn't kiss me or admit to anything. I asked her one more time to tell me the truth and told her if she admitted then I would forget everything and we would be fine. She denied. I flipped my top and told her we were over due to her dishonesty and unfaithfulness, and to get out. She cried and said she wanted to fix things, she admitted to doing things with the lesbian. Yet still I packed bags for her and the kids and gave her $400 cash for hotel fare. I knew she had family, relatives and friends to stay with. She is staying with the lesbian at her parents house.

I love this girl and her children so much that I am wanting to take her back and forgive it all. I would even allow a girl on the side but I dont think I can deal with wanting that evil lesbian girl around. I know my terminology of 'evil' may make you laugh but this lesbian girl is pure evil; she has wrecked our family and caused my girlfriend to be cruel to her children and my pets not to mention unfaithful to me.

I told her today that if she wanted time alone with that girl that I would watch the kids as I believe they deserve to sleep in their own beds. I love them and the hardest part about all of this is losing them, even though they are not mine I love them as if they were.

Before all of this happened my girlfriend was so completely loyal, helped me with anything, she was just amazing. Both of our families loved us. It is like a clear sky turned dark, immediately. Controlled by this lesbian. Now the children suffer without a home, beds, stability or a father.

She went from one step away from marriage, she had a house, a future. Now she has nothing. All because of this. Yet she still clings to this lesbian. She told me that it was because she was alone for 5 hours out of the day and that the lesbian showed her the attention that I wasn't able to because I was at work.

What would you do, what do you think...what the hell!