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1. Intelligent/thoughtful/curious. OK, technically that's kind of lumping stuff into one, but they have to come together for me. I need a woman who's as smart or smarter than I am, who thinks about things, about herself, about life, and so forth, and who is curious to learn and ask questions and consider her ideas and beliefs.
2. Honest/Communicative. No getting around this one. Without this, no relationship can survive.
3. Spiritual. Someone who is interested in God, in spiritual practices, in mysticism, in their soul, in the metaphysical, and in the spiritual meanings of life in general.
(3a. Jewish, although this was only ever important vis-a-vis marriage. Never stopped me from one-nighters, flings, short-term relationships,or even the occasional longer-term relationship.)
4. Quiet Fun/Cultured/Funny. Someone who likes to go to concerts, museums, plays, opera, comedy, movies, great restaurants, the occasional art show; but also likes cozy evenings at home, entertaining guests, DVDs on the sofa, reading together; and throughout all of the above, sharing my quirky sense of humor.
5. Crazy horny. Got to have boots and love knockin' 'em. Plain vanilla okay, as long as it's in abundance, with great zest; although I do like the occasional kink thrown in-- more than occasional is okay, too.
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Dull sublunary lovers love,
Whose soul is sense, cannot admit
Absence, because it doth remove
That thing which elemented it.
(From "A Valediction: Forbidding Mourning" by John Donne)
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