Lindy

Here is a hacked up, edited, revision of a list that I posted in a thread in the Ladies Lounge three and a half years ago.
Priorities shift over time, this is what is important to me now, at age 34. I know that my list would be different if I wrote it at age 18 or 21.

1) If you want me to look twice at you, you have to be, first of all, non-negotiable, chiseled into concrete--AN ADULT. I’ve known men who were adult at age twenty, others with no chance at age fifty. What I look for now, is someone who might turn out to be a good partner. You do not need to be drop dead gorgeous, (or even handsome) a neat freak, buff, or rich. You don't need to be an Einstein, but if you have some interests besides trucks, NASCAR, football, beer, the NBA, and my tits, that would be nice.
2) Intelligent and inquiring.
3) Responsible, socially and financially.
4) Emotionally stable,supportive, and unafraid of commitment.
5) The jealous, the possessive, the druggy, the practicing alcoholic need not apply.
And a bunch of little stuff that is important to me now, that maybe wasn’t when I was age 20: You should be able to do your own laundry, pick up after yourself, balance your checkbook, clean your catbox, and cook. Take a shower every day. Still living at home at twenty-one is OK, at thirty-one it's not, no matter how many degrees you have. I might end up being your friend, girlfriend, wife, significant other, whatever, but I will not be your maid or your mom.
Original post: http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/ladies-...#ixzz1IazE14JJ
Something about this bothers me... I'm not quite sure what. I can't see anything appealing about being with a dumbass.

Thanks, dlish, for bringing some wisdom to the thread.

Lindy