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Willravel · 04-02-2011, 05:25 PM

Honesty has to top my list. Experience has taught me that all other desirable traits pale in comparison to the ability to be truthful through good times and bad with one's partner/s. When I'm seriously dating a woman, even though we won't always agree on everything, it's my view that we always have each other's backs completely and that requires real, honest to goodness trust. I don't believe in keeping secrets from one's partner or partners.

Healthy self-esteem is a strong second to honesty, as far as I'm concerned. While I've got my partner's back 100%, I can't be the sole support system for her self-worth. It's simply not healthy. She doesn't have to be an island of strength, but having developed one's own belief in one's abilities, one's successes and one's worth is paramount.

Another important trait is not only the ability but the proclivity to educate herself (usin' words like proclivity don't hurt, neither!). I've known plenty of naturally smart people and people who are well educated, but it's the people who are always hungry to learn that I respect the most. It's an openness, combined with active curiosity and skepticism that leads one to continually formulate a better understanding and thus appreciation of the world. And there's nothing in the world sexier than a woman who's excited to learn.

Everyone should have a sense of romance, including women. While I consider myself a chivalrous feminist, and I love going out of my way to show affection, it means the world to me for someone who I care about to demonstrate in some meaningful way that she cares about me, too. Romance is not isolated to one gender. I don't mean flowers or anything, mind you, but a post-it note with some loving message left on the bathroom mirror means a lot. And ladies, don't forget that a woman can propose marriage.

While I value a woman for who she is on the inside, I'd be lying if I said it didn't matter what she looks like. I've found that, in my 14 or so years of dating, I tend to date attractive women. Sue me! I don't recall ever dating a woman I wasn't physically attracted to, and I can't imagine myself doing it in the future.

04-02-2011, 05:25 PM	#7 (permalink)
Willravel ... a sort of licensed troubleshooter.	Honesty has to top my list. Experience has taught me that all other desirable traits pale in comparison to the ability to be truthful through good times and bad with one's partner/s. When I'm seriously dating a woman, even though we won't always agree on everything, it's my view that we always have each other's backs completely and that requires real, honest to goodness trust. I don't believe in keeping secrets from one's partner or partners. Healthy self-esteem is a strong second to honesty, as far as I'm concerned. While I've got my partner's back 100%, I can't be the sole support system for her self-worth. It's simply not healthy. She doesn't have to be an island of strength, but having developed one's own belief in one's abilities, one's successes and one's worth is paramount. Another important trait is not only the ability but the proclivity to educate herself (usin' words like proclivity don't hurt, neither!). I've known plenty of naturally smart people and people who are well educated, but it's the people who are always hungry to learn that I respect the most. It's an openness, combined with active curiosity and skepticism that leads one to continually formulate a better understanding and thus appreciation of the world. And there's nothing in the world sexier than a woman who's excited to learn. Everyone should have a sense of romance, including women. While I consider myself a chivalrous feminist, and I love going out of my way to show affection, it means the world to me for someone who I care about to demonstrate in some meaningful way that she cares about me, too. Romance is not isolated to one gender. I don't mean flowers or anything, mind you, but a post-it note with some loving message left on the bathroom mirror means a lot. And ladies, don't forget that a woman can propose marriage. While I value a woman for who she is on the inside, I'd be lying if I said it didn't matter what she looks like. I've found that, in my 14 or so years of dating, I tend to date attractive women. Sue me! I don't recall ever dating a woman I wasn't physically attracted to, and I can't imagine myself doing it in the future.