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Originally Posted by snowy
All right, boys. Back to ChickenMuffin.
ChickenMuffin,
Your attitude towards your ex-girlfriend creeps me out. You need to walk away, as other have advised here, for your own good and for hers. You have a lot of personal growth to go through before you're ready to be in a relationship again, and I do believe you have a lot of realizations to come to about other people before you should pursue having another girlfriend.
You must realize about this theoretical future girlfriend:
1) Your girlfriend is not your property. She is her own human being, and you should repect that.
2) Your girlfriend is free to check out any man that she likes, and not tell you about it.
3) What's good for the goose is good for the gander, or in this case, what's good for the gander is good for the goose.
4) Your girlfriend is free to fantasize about any man that she likes, and not tell you about it.
5) Your girlfriend's body is her own, not yours. She doesn't have to tell you about every single thing that may be wrong with it.
6) Your girlfriend is free to masturbate on her own when you're not around if she so chooses.
I really feel like the above list is just the tip of the iceberg, though. Your behaviors towards your girlfriend and your attitudes about her and your relationship truly trouble me. You are in a very, very unhealthy place. Let her go, walk away, and work on understanding what's appropriate in relationships and what isn't, please.
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!@#$.... that makes a lot of sense now. Possibly, my biggest insecurity of all and that's one huge of a checklist too. I thought of her as my wife and I didn't want her to run wild. I gave it my all to the relationship and thought that it was too much to bear the things she does that isn't 'right'. But I don't own her and this is her life and I'm just part of it. I do need personal growth, and I haven't much respected her personal space. She has watched porn behind my back through webcam(I heard noises). and I confronted her about it, though I wasn't mean towards it but simply "Heyyyyyy which porn video you watching? Share! Share ! Shareeee<3" Not sure but I thought it was okay to be exposed to each other of these sorts. I mean, we were opened about porn, sex and etc. Don't know why she would hide that from me. I get it now... damn, why didn't I approach you all first when going through these problems. I trusted my own beliefs and values and had went with it, seeing my parents and what they go through everyday and yet they're always there for each other. They know each other and get back up together from problem to problem and this is something I wanted in my relationship, to grow from these problems. Maybe I was too delusional of this phase, maybe it was the simple life back then and now we're in the 21st century. God dammit...