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Originally Posted by Strange Famous
I dont thinks its especially work, Im just a highly strung person prone to over reacting or seeing the worse in people's perception of me.
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If the person was someone I did not usually call 'mate', then realising I had done so with back turned would give me a slight 'whoops ... inconsistent' bell, but I'd 'let myself off the hook' because any tendency to 'see the worst in someone's perception of me' would be within the context that THEY could see that I hadn't seen it was them.
Your description reminds me of my own shyness which I have taken steps to work through. I've worked a bit on my own sensitivity ... Part of it is: "What attitude to I want to be going around all my life." I like Kramer's, because he seems to be letting himself behave according to HIS own will, at the same time as respecting social protocols unless in a position of familiarity. The other part is: When I have made a judgement about someone else's perception of me ... I 'must' take steps to establish whether that judgement ahs been 'accurate'. By which I mean 'can other facts which tend to back up or disprove my judgements. Bottom line, is my judgement well formed and backed by experience. Slowly but surely, I've become a bit better at assessing the quality of my judgments. The knock on effect of that info is that by feeling my 'commitment to reality base my judgements' back into my system, my judgements become decreasingly 'wild' or 'skewed'.
I've not yet done away with the feelings of terror, but they now take their place with better bases of action than the old knee-jerks.
All the best
PS ... I'll have to remember that 'fucktard' gambit ... lol if I have a really bad day ... I say that to ANYBODY who approaches me from behind, and have ready the 'i thought you were somebody else'. It's as food as the beloved "Whoops .. Wrong Window!" gambit