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Originally Posted by ralphie250
she will tell me that she has no desire to have sex. she says she could live with it or without it. she says she feels fine. we really dont exersize due to the face that we dont have time (excuse) with a 3 year old ( we could find time) she is like most women she dont like her body she says shes fat. i dont believe she is. she isnt small she is a little big but not really overweight. i on the other hand am a fat ass. i have expressed to her that i think she dont want to cause of the way i am (fat) but she insists thats not it (maybe to make me feel better who knows). some peopel are sexual people, i am one of them, but she's not
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You should make sure that communication between you is clear, open, and honest. Be sure that she really does have no desire, and that she is not merely lacking physical attraction to you (I say that with compassion, since I have been on the unpleasant receiving end of that conversation, myself).
But if your communication is open and honest, and what you've said is accurate, then I think you need to be clear with her that this is a major issue for you, and you'd like for you both to see a sex therapist together. There may be psychological reasons for her lack of desire, or even possibly physical reasons, and either of those might be overcome.