Is it ambivalence towards responsibility, or a medical/mental health problem? The problems you've described suggest depression or adult ADHD to me (or both), but I'm not a mental health professional. The point is, if these are consistent patterns in your SO's life, they could be attributed to a deeper problem, and if you really care about this person, you will help them get the help they need.
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