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genuinegirly · 03-18-2011, 07:07 PM

How does someone function as an adult with these habits? Has everyone in her life enabled this behavior?

It seems that you did yourself a favor by watching how these things played out.

Yes, you would be making an excellently justified choice if you decide to kick her to the curb.

Yes, her irresponsibility will reflect poorly on you.

No, she will not change.

You've already shown that this ambivalence toward responsibility could be a deal-breaker. I'm sure you came here asking for ways to cope with such behavior in an SO, but I wouldn't last a week with someone like this. You haven't mentioned any redeeming qualities. She needs a fire lit under her bum. Sounds like you're the only person who is in a position to do so. If she does in fact have many redeeming qualities that you failed to mention, then I suppose this is something you could try to work with. But I won't recommend it. There is always someone else out there. If you're going for a life partner, I recommend choosing someone you can stand.

03-18-2011, 07:07 PM	#2 (permalink)
genuinegirly Eat your vegetables Super Moderator Location: Arabidopsis-ville	How does someone function as an adult with these habits? Has everyone in her life enabled this behavior? It seems that you did yourself a favor by watching how these things played out. Yes, you would be making an excellently justified choice if you decide to kick her to the curb. Yes, her irresponsibility will reflect poorly on you. No, she will not change. You've already shown that this ambivalence toward responsibility could be a deal-breaker. I'm sure you came here asking for ways to cope with such behavior in an SO, but I wouldn't last a week with someone like this. You haven't mentioned any redeeming qualities. She needs a fire lit under her bum. Sounds like you're the only person who is in a position to do so. If she does in fact have many redeeming qualities that you failed to mention, then I suppose this is something you could try to work with. But I won't recommend it. There is always someone else out there. If you're going for a life partner, I recommend choosing someone you can stand. __________________ "Sometimes I have to remember that things are brought to me for a reason, either for my own lessons or for the benefit of others." Cynthetiq "violence is no more or less real than non-violence." roachboy Last edited by genuinegirly; 03-18-2011 at 07:14 PM..