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Being a man I am not at risk from the same motivations for assault that a woman is (ie sex and violence), but there's still robbery and drunkeness I guess.
I have been in situations in the past when out walking late at night when I have felt worried, or maybe some language is exchanged. I am not proud to say that I have also twice been the aggressor.
Once when three people were - in my drunken state of mind I perceived them to be- gathered around me and asking to borrow my phone. I reacted with unprovoked aggression thinking it was an attempted mugging about to kick off.
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Sometimes when I am walking through town on a Sat night and people are drunk I feel threatened or intimidated to a degree. I mostly just keep my head down, dont carry my wallet when Im just going for a walk. I also tend to wrap my house/car keys around my fist when I feel threatened, I think just as a kind of gesture to comfort myself.
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I think that feeling afraid and intimidated can in itself feel aggression. You feel ashamed in a sense for feeling fear, and start to get angry at the person who has (maybe not even knowingly) made you feel that way, and you sort of wind yourself up just waiting for them to make a move and then you'll lash out... which often isnt the best thing to do.
Like in the thing I described, say they had knives or whatever and they were muggers handing over your phone is 1000% better than getting stabbed.
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