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Strange Famous · 03-06-2011, 01:23 AM

It could have been worse, you could have jogged in place behind her shouting "move it! move it!" I suppose

But like others said, I suppose she found it a bit embarassing not being able to climb the stairs easily, and probably the best thing to do in any case like that is not draw someones attention to the thing thats embarassing them.

To be honest the way you word your post kind of comes over as patronising and a little insulting towards the lady
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I dont know if I can offer a slightly similar experience. This ISNT one of my fight stories at least.

I am 5 10 and weigh between 280 and 320 lbs depending on how things are going and have for the last say 8 years. I am quite broad shouldered but by best natural weight is probably about 200-215 lbs so I am significantly overweight and have been most of my adult life.

Approx 8 years ago I was out drinking with a load of friends from work. There was one girl who to be honest I had a bit of a crush on (she had a long term boyfriend). At some point we were walking back to the taxi rank and we were sort of arm in arm (I think she had twisted her ankle, or we were messing about) anyay, her boyfriend was at the taxi rank. She went over to him and (I wasnt aware of this at all at the time) he threatened to beat me up. She said to him "dont hit him, he's fat!"

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I didnt know of any of it until Monday at work when she (thinking I had overheard) apologised for what she said

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To be honest it made me feel furious and completely immasculated. I cant describe how much at that point I wished the guy had tried to have a go so I could have beaten the shit out of him and shown that despite being fat I could still fight. I sort of stopped liking her at that point, which isnt really fair. We were all pretty drunk and she was trying to stop me getting hit and I was somewhat in the wrong in any case since I had my hands all over his girlfriend... but somehow she had revealed a shame inside of me and I couldnt really like her in the same way after that. Like I said, It aint that I dont know I am fat, it isnt that I logically think nobody else can notice, but when its said out loud it makes you feel ashamed of yourself and you exactly like someone who makes you feel ashamed.

(and I never met her boyfriend again...)

03-06-2011, 01:23 AM	#7 (permalink)
Strange Famous follower of the child's crusade?	It could have been worse, you could have jogged in place behind her shouting "move it! move it!" I suppose But like others said, I suppose she found it a bit embarassing not being able to climb the stairs easily, and probably the best thing to do in any case like that is not draw someones attention to the thing thats embarassing them. To be honest the way you word your post kind of comes over as patronising and a little insulting towards the lady _ I dont know if I can offer a slightly similar experience. This ISNT one of my fight stories at least. I am 5 10 and weigh between 280 and 320 lbs depending on how things are going and have for the last say 8 years. I am quite broad shouldered but by best natural weight is probably about 200-215 lbs so I am significantly overweight and have been most of my adult life. Approx 8 years ago I was out drinking with a load of friends from work. There was one girl who to be honest I had a bit of a crush on (she had a long term boyfriend). At some point we were walking back to the taxi rank and we were sort of arm in arm (I think she had twisted her ankle, or we were messing about) anyay, her boyfriend was at the taxi rank. She went over to him and (I wasnt aware of this at all at the time) he threatened to beat me up. She said to him "dont hit him, he's fat!" _ I didnt know of any of it until Monday at work when she (thinking I had overheard) apologised for what she said _ To be honest it made me feel furious and completely immasculated. I cant describe how much at that point I wished the guy had tried to have a go so I could have beaten the shit out of him and shown that despite being fat I could still fight. I sort of stopped liking her at that point, which isnt really fair. We were all pretty drunk and she was trying to stop me getting hit and I was somewhat in the wrong in any case since I had my hands all over his girlfriend... but somehow she had revealed a shame inside of me and I couldnt really like her in the same way after that. Like I said, It aint that I dont know I am fat, it isnt that I logically think nobody else can notice, but when its said out loud it makes you feel ashamed of yourself and you exactly like someone who makes you feel ashamed. (and I never met her boyfriend again...) __________________ "Do not tell lies, and do not do what you hate, for all things are plain in the sight of Heaven. For nothing hidden will not become manifest, and nothing covered will remain without being uncovered." The Gospel of Thomas Last edited by Strange Famous; 03-06-2011 at 01:36 AM..