For me, I would put things at 50% on lack of available women, and 50% of my own personal issues.
I am very individualistic, and have about as many friends as you, but I'm not sure they would set me up with anyone. And I move around too often to really ask any of them. And where I go is usually the middle of nowhere. There aren't too many 20-something single ladies in the middle of the desert. Even if there was one, what would I say? I would like to date you until May, then you will come back to Ohio with me?
I also think that I have not lived in places where I could meet someone with similar life pursuits as me. I am a little out there, but I have always lived and hung out with the conservatives (despite what my posts here might indicate
) So, I'm going about finding women wrong, and the women who I meet and live close by aren't who I'm looking for either.
I like being alone too, most of the time. It is easier when I do not have a fixed schedule. I can also budget money very well, and I don't have to explain my weird purchases or why I want to ride my bike 20 miles to save a gallon of gas and get some exercise. I can go on trips home and leave when I'm ready. I can watch TV or use the Internet and put off cleaning or laundry until later. I don't have to worry about someone else, either their safety or cheating.
A lot would have to change, and while it might be for the better, there are lots of stories of failed relationships out there and I don't see myself as being a very successful longterm boyfriend when so many people who were madly in love didn't make it...