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Originally Posted by mixedmedia
I agree with the folks that this story is titillating. And in a man-movie like The Hangover or something, it would be a dream come true sort of scenario. A real back-slapper.
You didn't mention her age, but since she recently lost her virginity I'm going to assume she is young.
Personally, this scenario would raise all kinds of red flags for me. Not only in relation to her mental and physical health and security, but your own. How well do you really know this person? Her family?
I know what makes her the way she is. And it is a tendency not always expressed in ways that ensure your own best interest, in ways that won't harm you. Especially when you are young and inexperienced.
Sorry to be all wet blanket-like and piss all over the pussy party, but if this were your son or your younger brother would you be as gung ho about telling him to just fuck her like she likes it and not worry about it?
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She's 21. I'm 23. She comes from a very traditional Conservative Korean family and is the only child. Making things short, her parents kept a close eye on her all these years. The buddy that introduced me to her confirms the following since he tutored her for 2 years and knows a lot about her family dynamics.
She has had maybe one or two guys in the past. Don't think I need to double bag it but I sure will wrap it before I tap it. She tells me the first person she blew was my buddy (who tells me he popped her cherry) and that her Korean boyfriend who supposedly popped her cherry wasn't into oral sex... I still don't know whether my buddy fucked her or not (here I go with the titillating language again) but I can confirm that he bailed out on her a couple of times due to a very busy personal schedule. This is the reason he referred her to me and I think she is pretty happy now that, according to her, we are each others' exclusive fuck buddies and she can get what she wants. That being said, from my personal experience, Asian girls pretend to be timid but deep down inside they love to fuck. I say this because their families migrate to the United States and keep their traditional Conservative roots from way back home. And what do these girls want to do? Blend in. Assimilate.
I am not a psychologist or a psychiatrist but I do have a psychology degree and I don't sense anything wrong with her. And as much as kramus thinks I'm an asshole
, I would never take advantage of a woman. I mean, look at me now, she seems completely fine to me and here I am thinking twice about fulfilling her sexual needs to be 'dominated.' A couple of days ago, I told her to just be herself and she told me flat out that perhaps she should cut down on all of the porn she has been watching. Due to her inexperience, and her willingness to watch porn to perhaps gain experience, I think she may be glorifying what she sees on the internet as the norm for sexual activity. On top of that, I think this little secretive life she is living that many timid Asian girls do not live totally turns her on. She always tells me about the sorority she is in and how awesome it is to be a little slut on the sidelines while the whole world thinks of her as a little angel.
I come from a very traditional Conservative culture as well and agree with her when she says that the stuff we do together, we will probably never have the chance to do with someone of our culture whom we love and want to spend our lives with. Why? Because, it just doesn't feel right. The stuff we are doing now is flat out dirty. This is stuff that is found in porn, not the bedroom.
Regarding the whole submissive/domination thing, I am making psychological adjustments myself
to keep my dick hard and shut the fuck up. I sent her a bullshit text about how I had a dream of fucking her blindfolded and she totally loved it so I guess I'm just making it hard on myself than it really is. At least she is not expecting me to tie her to my bed and put on a werewolf mask or something along those lines...
Time for the boss to keep his mouth shut. Like she said, "If I don't give her a raise, she might start looking for another job."
Gk.12.3 over and out.
P.S. Thanks for all of your advice everyone.