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greenisthename · 02-12-2011, 04:09 AM

You shouldn’t have to play games, if only you’d grow a pair. There is no way out of escaping who you are, so then why do you try to run away from exactly that when dating someone? Out of the nervousness to impress, because honestly terrifies you? The problem is no ones got any guts, except when they’ve drunk far too much, and suddenly the beer and the vodka and cocktails and jack have inspired them to say it as they see it.

I advise all of you to throw more caution to the wind, be more direct. If you want to know if they smoke pot, want kids, fuck unicorns, want a fuck, want a long-term thing, then it’s quite simple, ask the questions. Chances are if you stick with them long enough you’ll find all that out anyway but by then you’ll have a hard time escaping, because your more invested yet terribly unsatisfied as the relationship isn’t meeting your needs and desires, and if you’re honest with yourself it never had. Do you even ask yourself what you’re looking for, and do you come up with any answers?

Maybe it’s risky to be upfront, as you could scare your date off if you blurt out ‘fancy a fuck?’ over a candle lit meal, but then it’s your own damn fault for being so bad with words. Just say what you want, in the right way and what’s the harm? The worst that could happen is that it turns out the other person doesn’t want the same things, but in that case you just move your little self on. Or low and behold, they just might, you never know and you never will if you don’t say what you want. But if you don’t ask you certainly don’t get, and you’ll be stuck playing a guessing game in your masquerade. Everyone is so afraid to expose himself or herself, man.

So yeah, you just sit back and quit asking for anything you actually want and tell me you don’t feel cheap.

I mean seriously ask yourself, who were you before you suddenly got embarrassed of it?

It’s not rocket science.

02-12-2011, 04:09 AM	#20 (permalink)
greenisthename Upright Location: United Kingdom, Norwich	You shouldn’t have to play games, if only you’d grow a pair. There is no way out of escaping who you are, so then why do you try to run away from exactly that when dating someone? Out of the nervousness to impress, because honestly terrifies you? The problem is no ones got any guts, except when they’ve drunk far too much, and suddenly the beer and the vodka and cocktails and jack have inspired them to say it as they see it. I advise all of you to throw more caution to the wind, be more direct. If you want to know if they smoke pot, want kids, fuck unicorns, want a fuck, want a long-term thing, then it’s quite simple, ask the questions. Chances are if you stick with them long enough you’ll find all that out anyway but by then you’ll have a hard time escaping, because your more invested yet terribly unsatisfied as the relationship isn’t meeting your needs and desires, and if you’re honest with yourself it never had. Do you even ask yourself what you’re looking for, and do you come up with any answers? Maybe it’s risky to be upfront, as you could scare your date off if you blurt out ‘fancy a fuck?’ over a candle lit meal, but then it’s your own damn fault for being so bad with words. Just say what you want, in the right way and what’s the harm? The worst that could happen is that it turns out the other person doesn’t want the same things, but in that case you just move your little self on. Or low and behold, they just might, you never know and you never will if you don’t say what you want. But if you don’t ask you certainly don’t get, and you’ll be stuck playing a guessing game in your masquerade. Everyone is so afraid to expose himself or herself, man. So yeah, you just sit back and quit asking for anything you actually want and tell me you don’t feel cheap. I mean seriously ask yourself, who were you before you suddenly got embarrassed of it? It’s not rocket science. __________________ "You have to want it, because it’s you. Because it’s all you are… Not for fame or money or anything like that. It has to be a part of you." Last edited by greenisthename; 02-12-2011 at 04:11 AM..