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chelle, I'm here to say I told you so. I told you in your numerous other threads that your jealous and immature behavior was going to drive a wedge between you and him. It can not be denied or ignored, and I won't ignore the 800 lb gorilla in the room. The fact that you want to sweep all of that behavior under the rug doesn't change the fact that it had an effect on the outcome of this relationship. It is foolish to imply that it did not have a thing to do with your breaking up. I am only telling you this so you will take responsibility for that behavior and its outcome. By taking responsibility, you will learn from it and move on to behaviors which ensure successful relationships.
chelle, you started this relationship as a child. You carried it through every minute of your adult years. You view it through a child's eyes and you have never known anything else as an adult but it. The only way to move forward into adult relationships is to sever yourself from it entirely. This guy is a good guy. He is holding on because he feels guilty for being true to himself, yet knowingly hurting someone he loves. However, these feelings are temporary and he will move on. If you linger, you will be witness to that and it will hurt even more. Every moment you linger is a moment you have wasted finding yourself and your next mate as an adult.
While this hurts, this is a grand opportunity for you. Now is the time to admit the mistakes you made, grow from them, and move on to a truly adult relationship. I do hope you find new happiness.
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