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There is some tension between my wife and her sister.My wife is the responsible one-her sister is the irresponsible one.My wife is reserved and her sister is not.Over the last sixteen years I have given a lot of time,energy and emotion to her sister and this has taken away from my family and kids. Her sister has been thru very bad relationships,been the victum of domestic violence and thru her poor choices has been used and abused by almost every man she has known except for me.I have been her stability for all these years.I have been able to get her into counceling three different times but she stops because of the emotional pain it causes her.I have always been willing to pay for her counceling sessions so money is never an issue.My wife-she is correct on this-is uncomfortable with the personal conversations her sister and I have.I know when she has sex,I know her medical history,I know what medications she is on,I know when she has her period,I even know the first time she swallowed.I know her better than anyone does.It does seem strange that we are comfortable having these conversations.Because of this,it is hard for me not to become emotionally attached.I do not think I can get her into counceling.At some point she will have to or her life will never change.You are also correct when you said that both of them have traits that I like but I also realize you can't combine two women into one.Its kind of like enjoying eggs and bacon but the doctor says if you keep eating them,you will have a heart attack.You have to pick the best choice so you can enjoy life-even if it means not eating eggs and bacon ever again. I have had some contact with her sister but have kept it at a very low level.She has also.She does not want to hurt my wife and is starting to understand the problems this has caused.I believe in the end,my wife and I will have a better relationship than ever because of this.
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