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The trick with parenting is that you're not dealing with entirely predictable automatons. Each child is different, even from birth. My mom has told me time and again that even at age 1 my sister and I were different; things that made me laugh made my sister cry, and vice versa.
This parenting style works for some individuals and not for some others. For all of the good things this article claims results from it, just as many kids off themselves or turn to drugs or run away because of it. You just don't hear about it, because who brags about that?
My parents approximated this style. It worked just well enough to make me achieve a 5.0 (AP/IB) through high school and go to a state school, where I immediately because a concerted underachiever because I wasn't under their roof anymore. If you're used to having people control you that much, set that any rules, in a vacuum of rules and control you can easily make terrible decisions. And for my sister? Even worse. She ran away at 16 to live with a boyfriend because she couldn't handle how strict my parents were. I think she's happier than I am now, but the drive to success can have side effects if you're dealing with children who have personalities that don't fit the parenting style.
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