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it feels dismissive of the situation I'm actually trying to figure out here. I no longer view "her" as a problem, or "myself" as a problem.
In fact I don't think we have a problem in the slightest as of yet. Whatever problem there was, disappeared when the ex disappeared. I simply have newer, more relevant questions about my situation at this point.
I already explained my rationale behind my "drama" and I'm still waiting to here a proper explanation as to why an assertation that I'm taking advantage of someone is not considered an attack on my character.
Implying that I should try listening would also imply you agree with them though, so maybe I've done a poor job of explaining the situation.
I'm going to go back and try to read through this like I'm not involved in any way because I feel like I may have left something out thats slanting this discussion down the wrong path.
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OK read it over again and really, I think I got all the relevant points in there, just assume for the most part that these are 2 good people, trying to figure out where this is going.
How would they/should they go about it? There's not really a manual on relationships of the formation thereof. It's really just boy meets girl bullshit isn't it?
I did find out that she wasn't a straight up lesbian, she was married while she was rather young, Right at 21. the guy was such a bad experience for her that she just pretty much stuck to the girlside of things til now. Knowing THAT it actually makes more sense, because I don't consider myself to be like "most guys" much less "most people" who are just notching their killcount up one at a time and being totally selfish thru life point A thru point B. (aka the navy buddy in the 1st post who sleeps with a different girl every night of the week and doesn't give a shit about how they feel about it the next day.)
I dont know if any of this clarifies what I'm trying to figure out or not but, fuck it, I tried.
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