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Originally Posted by Cimarron29414
So, this implies he "stores" those images on his PC in the recycle bin - a place that is the least reliable place to store files on a PC since they are not guaranteed by the OS to be preserved there forever. It seems strange that one would store files that are so important in a place that is so volatile. So, in order to accept your story, I must accept that his and your normal PC behavior fall far outside of the norm for PC use. I guess that is my trouble with the story and why I question whether you were actually snooping or not.
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Here's how I imagined this going down:
OP asks her boyfriend for his computer because her computer isn't working.
He goes through and quickly deletes any incriminating pics, forgets that they went to (or thinks that they're safe in) the recycle bin, then hands it to her
OP uses the computer, then decides she wants to be super awesome and not clutter his hard drive with her docs so she deletes them and attempts to empty the recycle bin, finding "questionable" pics
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Originally Posted by Plan9
Say what? Aside from the fact that you mentioned your cheating no less than 27.8 times in your complete post, there are vastly disparate levels of impulse control and, uh, integrity at play here. Hell, we talked about this when it happened. You didn't prime yourself for cheating by masturbating to Facebook pics, you were in all likelihood going to do it anyway. You set yourself up for it. You initiated. Your logic is like suggesting that because I masturbate to pictures of my former partners that I'm going to turn into a crazy stalker that loves to put Every Breath You Take on repeat. And lemme guess: Marilyn Manson's music and iD Software's Doom computer game were responsible for the Columbine shooting, too.
I don't buy it. Don't justify your infidelity by pulling the Pavlov card. You're supposed to be an adult, not a toddler raiding a cookie jar.
You wanted to bang somebody, so you friggin' banged somebody. Don't blame it on something trivial like your masturbation habits.
A lot of people can separate those impulses. Fantasy and reality. I've been doing it for years. Don't put the genitals on a pedestal.
"It wasn't me, it was the masturbation! I couldn't help myself." Get the fuck out. Take some responsibility for your fuck-ups.
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What I was going for with the above post was an attempt at constructing snapshots of two different outcomes of masturbation while looking at pics of friends.
The reason I did this was to indicate that sometimes looking at pics of real people while masturbating is an indication of an intent to cheat, and sometimes it isn't.
People can have different levels of self control. I suspect that conditioning one's self to get off to certain real people could impact how one feels around those people when faced with real interaction. One can choose to ignore or not ignore the impulses that such conditioning may influence.
I have at different points in my life exercised restraint--and conversely, have at different points had terrible self control.
If it came across that I was somehow trying to evade accepting responsibility for what happened, then I was inaccurately reflecting how I really feel about the situation.