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People make mistakes - the question is, is she the kind of person who will continue the mistake, or will she rectify it.
The way I see it, there are two and a half options here:
1) She decides her girlfriend is more important to her than you. This is the safest choice for her - stick with what she knows and not risk that her interest in you is just a curiosity that will wane over time.
2) Decide it's more important to explore a relationship with you and...
a) break up with her girlfriend.
b) have a difficult and honest discussion with her girlfriend about her interest in you and the possibility of being in both relationships simultaneously. This will very likely result in her girlfriend breaking up with her anyway, but there's a very remote possibility that it won't.
Continuing your relationship in secret is not a viable option.
Taking the 2b approach requires acceptance of all parties involved. Will her other relationship sometimes get in the way of yours? Of course. Her relationship with you will also sometimes get in the way of the other. That's the trade-off. It's a lot easier to deal with, though, when everyone is being honest about it rather than making excuses like "I had to stay late at work."
Anyway, none of these are easy options and the odds are extremely likely that one of these relationships will end, even if you take the 2b approach. Almost all relationships end at some point. Only one option has even a remote possibility of allowing for both relationships to continue, and that's the honest approach.
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