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Originally Posted by jewels
Since I'm one of those who sometimes relies on others' memories, I can vouch that they handle it well. I have some medical issues (sleep apnea, for one) which impact my memory. We joke about it in our household. If I'm not home and receive an important receipt, I'll always say "Hey, I'm putting this over here" so that when I forget, they'll be able to remind me. They understand why I ask this of them and care enough to think it's no big deal. This is on short-term stuff.
As far as long-term, I rely on no one. Most people that I know from the past have some memory lapses as well, so we often try to piece together what really happened through exchange of mutual memories. It can actually be fun.
While I do have some minor concerns that the memory problem may worsen over time, a la Alzheimer's, those that love me have been instructed what needs to be done when it becomes serious enough to impact their lives, or when I'm unable to care for myself. I think that's what you're asking. I don't obsess over it and think I still have quite a few good years left.
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Originally Posted by zenda
When I was in a horrid and wound-licking part of my life - divorced about 16 years ago, my friends were my safety net. Everything on my 'inside' was agony and my memory and thinking were fragmented. I did need others to 'do it for me'. Some friends could stand it, but some I lost. I subsequently had to develop a skill I'd never realized existed: HOW to look after my support group. How to be a good passenger when I need a ride, and how to help them to stay within THEIR safe limits even when they're in 'emergency alert' on my behalf.
I don't like it when someone stops a group conversation in it's tracks for fifteen minutes because they can't remember the name of a film they wish to use as an example to illustrate their point. However, if someone's relying on me for memory and knowledge, I'll always strive to find out what's going on with them ... cos, though I might feel a bit put-upon, I don't want to let someone fall if I'm a necessary crutch for them at that time.
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If the memory problems can be explained with a disease, then it maybe would be easier to adapt to someone making the same questions again. I was thinking more about working environment with my question. My workmates are generally nice and do help, but when I have to ask for help, I usually make some notes to myself, so that I wouldn't have to bother them too soon again with the same question.
I have colleagues though, who ask someone else all the time rather than make notes or read manuals at first, or do any seeming effort to memorizing. They use another person as their constant source. I have a bosses, who have gotten used to their employees reminding them of nearly everything...
This I find annoying, especially if their "success" at work is based on using others and they get paid more for taking care of their part of the job.
But we have some sense of group support as well, if someone has encountered difficulties in life that will affect their working capacity, they are being looked after, so that they can get back to full strength at work again.