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Originally Posted by jewels
Long and tedious: doctor's words? Why can't you wait if you've already waited this long? And if your boyfriend's been patient and understanding, why are you rushing things?
While I understand wanting to make him happy, if he cares for you he won't want you to make that sort of sacrifice for him. If you're that concerned, your mouth will lubricate easily and I'm sure he'll be fine with that for now.  Also, focus on getting him all worked up might help those juices start to flow.
If the med combo is as debilitating as you describe, readjust your self-expectations. Take the pressure off yourself so that as the weaning process begins, you'll be open to feeling the change and things will slowly go back to normal.
I'd found myself in a similar crises when I was married and found my appetite returning once the weaning process began. The same will happen for you. |
Yeah - those were the doctor's words. I mean, I take 2mgs of Risperdal now. For the month, he has me taking half of one. Then for the next month it will be none. Then for the next month he'll start weening me off of something else. It'll be a while with 5 meds at the dosages I take them at lol.
Thank you for your suggestions. Even though a penis is the last thing I want in my mouth atm, perhaps I can work on this!
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Originally Posted by noodle
Sweetie, with the meds you have taken and the changes you're making now, it's no wonder you have/had no sex drive. Cut yourself a little slack... these meds have a chemical impact on your sex drive, it's not like you're just not into it. In my experience, you may have to ride it out and talk to your man. Just be honest about some of what is going on... about the side effects of the meds and it not being personal. Talk to the docs and let them know about ANY changes, good or bad, and just communicate. With all of the important people, so that you have a support network through this and don't end up more frustrated, depressed, and stressed out because of something that is likely beyond your control. Hang in there.
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Oh, we've talked quite a bit about it. Know what he does? When we have a great 'session,' he's like, "Well you got into it that time! Just maybe try whatever you it is you did next time and see if it works again!" I can't tell the man I had just taken 3 - 7.5mg Percosets 40 minutes beforehand lol. And before anyone asks, yes I have a history of drug abuse. I'm walking a fine line having an Rx for these bad boys. Hence, I don't want to depend on them for sex.
Thank you noodle. You're reply was very sweet and supportive. I appreciate it.
To add to my story, I've tried focusing just how much I love this man. Tried to make love more than just fuck. I do love him - with all of my heart - but focusing on that just makes me want to hold him and hug him and kiss him. Not spread my legs for him. This is whacked, right?
I bought a porn. He doesn't want to watch it with me. He's afraid that I'll need porn forever more in order to get turned on instead of naturally being turned on by him. ugh