bagatelle

I do poke and push my husband in order to make him turn. I try to do this so that I wouldn't wake him up, because he's not always getting enough sleep either and I don't want him grumpier due to lack of sleep. Yet gentle pushing does not seem to work and I end up waiting in vain for him to start breathing more silently.

It's even more difficult, when I work, it's always in the evenings and he has a day job, so he's ready to go to sleep earlier than I am. He's disturbed by me getting to bed later and there's a chance I wake up to his alarm in the morning, when I could still continue sleeping - this was solved by him sleeping in the trailer in the summer, but otherwise it's not tempting to permanently sleep in different rooms.

My husband didn't always snore, but him gaining a bit weight and often drinking a beer late in the evening must have influence. He says that I also snore at times, which must be true, but he wouldn't dare to push me, since he knows how hard it often is for me to get back to sleep.

It's interesting though that many couples of our grandparents' generation didn't have doublebeds. They mostly slept in separate rooms too.

Would it be considered too alienating for the relationship to plan the living conditions from the start so that both had their own bedrooms? Sleep is important and sleeping is done alone.

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