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Originally Posted by TheCrimsonGhost
I really think it's not as innocent as he wants you to think, seems to me he is having relationships with these girls in his head, in depth fantasies, not just gettin his rocks off like a normal guy would in a porn fueled masturbation session.
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I mean, that's my biggest worry. I feel like if he's not happy in our relationship, he needs to talk to me about it or end it. Of course, I really don't feel that's the case. Our relationship (up until this), has been really happy and really strong. We have the occasional arugment, of course, but nothing big.
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Originally Posted by Plan9
OP, maybe you should share these thoughts with him. Or this discussion. Make sure that you iron out all issues now so you don't build any resent later.
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I want to, I'm just deciding what exactly I want to say to him. I want him to know how much it hurts me, but I really want to know why he got so upset when I asked why he wouldn't delete the pictures. I'm also wondering if it might be better to just give myself a couple weeks to get over it and suck it up.
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Originally Posted by mixedmedia
...but I would be a little 'weirded out' if I found out my boyfriend was keeping pictures of my friends to masturbate to. Old girlfriends is different. to me. They've actually had sex with them.
And, ultimately, if he's being a dick about it, I would be more concerned about that than the pictures themselves.
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After reading all of these posts and yours, I agree that the old girlfriends isn't as bad as I thought. It makes sense. My friends and roomie, however, are going to be hard for me to be understanding about.
I'm really concerned about the way he reacted. I just feel like if they really mean nothing to him as he says, he wouldn't have gotten so mad about it.
For everyone else who says it's normal for guys to fantasize about girls they see everyday (including my friends, etc.), I understand that a little better now. Honestly, the fact that he's harboring pictures bothers me more then anything else. Another thing that bothers me is that he hasn't ever downloaded any pictures of me. I can't be that unattractive to him if we're having sex and we've been dating so long, right?