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IIRC, a large percentage of partners fantasize about other people when having sex. So long as he isn't acting on these fantasies, IMHO, there's no real harm to it.
I know I'm adding to the chorus of male opinions here, but consider that you technically 'snooped' through his recycle bin, then confronted him about it. Bear in mind that these weren't things like, love letters to ex lovers, or other signs of unfaithful behavior.
From a guy who's experienced these things before--we like to keep some privacy and absolutely *HATE* it when a woman snoops through our stuff and confronts us about it. I had an ex who would dig through my computer, find pics of my old relationships, and tell me to delete it, or else she would throw a huge fit. This would probably explain why your boyfriend snapped at you.
In short:
1.) Don't snoop. It violates a boyfriend's trust, and impinges on his privacy.
2.) If you want to confront him about it, don't tell him to delete whatever sweet memories he may want to keep.
3.) Be more secure in your relationship. If a person wants to cheat, or, anything, there's nothing you can do about it. Accepting that, and accepting that other's infidelity reflects nothing on you is one of the most liberating acknowledgements.
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