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My husband grew up in a "yellow let it mellow" household where males outnumbered females 6:1. He nearly always leaves the toilet seat up, has no problem peeing on top of anyone's urine, and invariably forgets to close the door when he's peeing. I'm pretty sure he also wouldn't have any problems peeing at the same time as any of his siblings, but I haven't witnessed that one...
I lived with his family for 6 months after we married, and was horrified at the process at first. Then I started to see the genius behind adapting their habits to deal with their big family. Things that I would normally consider private are public and open... While I understand their methods, I wasn't about to adopt them. I simply developed habits to work around my discomfort.
I've explained the bathroom etiquette in my home growing up, detailing how we differ. He understands and tries to change. Reality is: He won't change. His habits are not necessarily wrong (nor are mine). They are simply different. He does his best to remember to close the door, to put the seat down, to flush... but honestly his habits are ingrained. He remembers when we have company, and that's all I can really hope for. I do my best to make a joke out of these things, I've gotten beyond the frustration.
You can, too.
If this is a deal-breaker, she must not be a fantastic woman.
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