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I briefly lived with my aunt and my dad/stepmom during my first stint in college. I had to pay rent and help with chores, but I did not have curfews. Granted, they wouldn't have worked for me because I frequently didn't get off work until midnight and I also had evening classes than ran until 10 pm. That said, it was wonderful to come and go as I pleased, but I also learned that making unwise decisions had consequences. I learned real fast that staying up late and going to class half asleep was a good way to get a bad grade on a test. I also learned that staying up late and having to be at work early the next morning really, really sucks.
Your elder daughter isn't going to be home forever. It will probably be tough on your other daughter; it was tough on me when my brother left for college and we didn't even get along that well. Growing up and moving away (figuratively and physically) from your family is part of becoming an adult. My son is only 8 and I'm betting I'll have a hard time letting him go, but I also know the value of letting him make his own decisions and facing the consequences of them. Should he choose to go to school nearby and stay at home, I don't think we'll set any curfews. Just my .02.
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Formerly Medusa
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