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Thanks for your advice so far! I slept better last night than I have in 2 months just knowing I am going to resolve this. In thinking about your comments,I really think my marriage has every aspect needed except some unexpected fun. I was always outgoing and my wife was not. When the kids were little,it was easy to justify staying home and trying to be the perfect parent.As the kids get older,our options free-up. I work side by side with my wife every day.We do work good together but I think if she worked less, our time at home would be more meaningful. I have suggested she works half days but she was offended that I suggested that-I even explained the reasons why. We are going away together the next two weekends but it was difficult to get her to agree to leave home. A month ago I proposed a wonderful trip I wanted to do next March for a week but she thought it would be too hard to plan for. I am doing the trip either with her or without her anyways just for some down time. Contrary to many relationships,our sex life is great. Always has been-sometimes too much for me! Opposite what you normally hear. So I really think we need to work on having spontaneous unexpected fun at times to keep our marriage exciting. These are the types of things I do with her sister.She fills that void for me and I fill it for her but the emotions that occur because of this are difficult to deal with. I really need to be doing the fun things with my wife and have her enjoy doing them.I don't want her to pretend she is having fun when she is not.Anyways,thanks again for responding and for caring. Have a great day.
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