Anonymous Member

I have never posted here before but maybe you can help put my head back on straight. I have been married over 20 years and have been faithful. I have had a very close relationship with my wifes sister for 16 years. I have helped her thru abusive relationships ,helped her financially and have done a lot of things for her a husband would do (no sex) . Over the years I become very attached to her when she is out of a relationship and worry about what havoc the next relationship will bring. She moved away 2 years ago and recently moved back. Our relationship is now closer than ever. We spend hours together,do overnight business trips together-same room-no sex. We go out together and have a lot of fun.I realize this is a fantasy world.We have only discussed the fact we can't have sex because of my marriage and her sister but never discussed what would happen if I was single.Recently my daughter and wife have both told me I am getting too close to her and they are worried.Of couse,I assured them we are just friends. But we are more than just friends.We have become emotionally bonded to each other. We do flirt a lot.We talk about our private lifes and do not keep secrets from each other. I have not been sleeping due to guilt about this and decided to stop texting her.We do about 20 texts a day. This only worked for 23 hours and before I knew it she was cooking me breakfast this morning. My wife is a beautiful loving lady who would do anything for me. I am trying to only have a platonic relationship with her sister that does not involve the emotional side but I have not found the answer to that. I do believe this is termed an emotional affair and my wife deserves better. I am considering counceling but would like to resolve it on my own.I am normally the person others come to for advice and it seems ironic to be on the other side of the fence.