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Originally Posted by amonkie
When my grandmother passed away last year, it was really overwhelming to be on the other side and have all these people I barely knew constantly coming up to me and my family.
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Ditto that.
When my parents died, I was very appreciative of the people that did show up. It made me feel a bit better knowing that people thought well of my parents to come and pay their respects.
No-one likes going to funerals, but we do it to tell those who were family that are still alive that we knew and appreciated their loved one. That the deceased person meant something to us as well and that they (the surviving family) are not alone in this.
You don't have to view the casket, (I prefer closed caaskets myself), you don't have to stay a long time, but it's a good thing to show up, to take 30 minutes of your time, to shake the hand of the family members and say, "I am sorry for your loss".
I remember those who showed up at my parents funeral. I also remember those who did not (a couple of close cousins who my parents were always good to as kids. I will never think of them in the same way again I can assure you. When I recently saw the one cousin, I was thinking, "where hell were you when your uncle died") Petty I know, but no-one ever said humans are logical.)
If she meant anything to you - you need to go - only for 5 minutes. You might feel a bit better about yourself.