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RogueGypsy · 11-19-2010, 03:16 PM

I'll just get this out of the way first, it may read a little rude, but needs to be said. Maybe, you're just not as interesting as you think you are, succinct and aware do not a conversation make.

Now, let's go to hypothetical world. Since you're a member of TFP I'll assume you have an IQ above room temperature. Maybe your friends don't. Maybe your well thought out, intelligent additions to the conversation just go over their heads and without understanding, they have no response and move on.

Maybe your friends are just attention whores. We all know some; people who just can't shut-up or listen to anyone else. Either step up your game or find new friends.

Or make it a form of entertainment. I know a guy, we'll call him Ed as in 'Special Ed'. He knows everything, really, just ask him. Trying to get a word in with him around is nearly impossible. At first it's just annoying, but soon becomes really, really ridiculous. It quickly got to the point where no one wanted to be around him, so he found new friends. His new friends are exactly like him. Ever see a group of people talking, all at once, basically talking too themselves. Because they're all having a different conversation, trying to out do the everyone else, who in turn are doing the same thing? Yeah, it's 'special'. But entertaining. Sometimes a group of use would stand back and observe, then make bets on who would out do whom. The last one to speak wins.

It probably does happen to a lot of people. It's just about how you handle it.

I'm going to step out on a limb here and say, you probably aren't an Alpha. Most Alphas, when talked over, will bitch slap the offender, verbally or physically and bring the conversation back to them. -By the way, the 'Shift' button is on the left.- If your conversation is as 'mousy' as your post, your lack of confidence will negate anything you have to say in a group right off the bat. Put a little emphasis in what you have to say and let it demand attention. That doesn't mean shout, or talk over others. But say what you have to say with authority and people will listen, regardless of content. A confident voice, just slightly lower than the surrounding conversation, yet loud enough to hear, will silence a room. People hear the tone and if the tone commands attention, they will stop talking to hear what's being said. Tone is beyond my scope of abilities to convey over the interwebs, so listen to others as they speak and emulate those who command the attention of a room without shouting or talking over others. Look for the guy or gal that stops conversations just by saying 'Hi'.

There's so much more to add, but I'll let some others step in and add to the conversation.....................

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11-19-2010, 03:16 PM	#5 (permalink)
RogueGypsy Insane Location: The Great NorthWet	I'll just get this out of the way first, it may read a little rude, but needs to be said. Maybe, you're just not as interesting as you think you are, succinct and aware do not a conversation make. Now, let's go to hypothetical world. Since you're a member of TFP I'll assume you have an IQ above room temperature. Maybe your friends don't. Maybe your well thought out, intelligent additions to the conversation just go over their heads and without understanding, they have no response and move on. Maybe your friends are just attention whores. We all know some; people who just can't shut-up or listen to anyone else. Either step up your game or find new friends. Or make it a form of entertainment. I know a guy, we'll call him Ed as in 'Special Ed'. He knows everything, really, just ask him. Trying to get a word in with him around is nearly impossible. At first it's just annoying, but soon becomes really, really ridiculous. It quickly got to the point where no one wanted to be around him, so he found new friends. His new friends are exactly like him. Ever see a group of people talking, all at once, basically talking too themselves. Because they're all having a different conversation, trying to out do the everyone else, who in turn are doing the same thing? Yeah, it's 'special'. But entertaining. Sometimes a group of use would stand back and observe, then make bets on who would out do whom. The last one to speak wins. It probably does happen to a lot of people. It's just about how you handle it. I'm going to step out on a limb here and say, you probably aren't an Alpha. Most Alphas, when talked over, will bitch slap the offender, verbally or physically and bring the conversation back to them. -By the way, the 'Shift' button is on the left.- If your conversation is as 'mousy' as your post, your lack of confidence will negate anything you have to say in a group right off the bat. Put a little emphasis in what you have to say and let it demand attention. That doesn't mean shout, or talk over others. But say what you have to say with authority and people will listen, regardless of content. A confident voice, just slightly lower than the surrounding conversation, yet loud enough to hear, will silence a room. People hear the tone and if the tone commands attention, they will stop talking to hear what's being said. Tone is beyond my scope of abilities to convey over the interwebs, so listen to others as they speak and emulate those who command the attention of a room without shouting or talking over others. Look for the guy or gal that stops conversations just by saying 'Hi'. There's so much more to add, but I'll let some others step in and add to the conversation..................... .. __________________ Methods, application and intensity of application vary by the individual. All legal wavers must be signed before 'treatment' begins. Self 'Medicating' is not recommend. However, if necessary, it is best to have an 'assistant' or 'soft landing zone' nearby. Any and all legal issues resulting from improperly applied techniques should be forwarded to: Dewy, Cheatum & Howe, Intercourse, PA 17534. Attn: Anonymous.