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Shadow, where oh where can I go to learn how to read people that well?
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How do you learn to spot a spark plug that's off timing? How do you spot stitching that was done wrong? How do you tell from a dough's texture that it needs more flour or more water?
For most of my life speaking to someone in person was almost no different than an AIM conversation before I spent years carefully studying charts of facial expressions and their most common meanings so I would be able to at least guess at what someone might be trying to convey. To me nonverbal communication is purely mechanical, I see combinations of muscle movements coming together as a facial expression, match that to their words and the context of our interaction/relationship and then basically gamble on what I think is most likely. Except for the people I am extremely close to and have spent years with I really am just flat out guessing based on what's most commonly the emotional state and intent associated with given expressions.
P.s. You had it right though, look at the eyes. Never pay attention to someone's mouth, always look at the areas surrounding the nose and eyes. Most involuntary facial expressions other than lip-twitches will happen there.