Oh, I did see that show.
I try to watch How I met Your Mother and Big Bang Theory.
The Question:
"If you identify as feminine, do you feel as if you need a masculine persona to take care of you? If not, do you feel as if your independence is a detriment to finding a mate? (If that is even what you seek?)"
When I was younger I did pride myself on not needing anyone. That I could open my own doors and pull my own weight at work. As the years go by I've realized a lot of people like doing things for you and it's their way of showing you they care or even out of plain courtesy and not a jab at my female "weakness."
I compromised and allowed people to do some things for me. Not all, never all. I still take some small pride in a little independence- I do know why I wanted to be seen as strong but that's for a whole 'nother topic.
So, while I wanted to be independent and used to think I was happy alone, I have changed into someone who can except help in the way it's offered without it feeling like a hit to my self esteem- which it felt like to me then.
I do/did want someone who is masculine as in strong of mind within themselves *self?*, yet someone who can push me in certain ways or hold me up at certain times. I also want to be a strength when needed. Not just there but There. ~If I said that right.
Not a soft to my strong complementary type relationship but a dance in power.
