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Vig, I can kinda see where Xazy is coming from and while it may not be the porn, having cultivated the sort of sexual appetite that needs to be fed daily hardly puts you in the position to fairly determine as to whether or not the problems stem from you or your wife. I'm in full agreement with all of those who've stated that the both of you need therapy but I can't help but to wonder how much responsibility you assume for what's wrong and what personal transformations you've undergone for the sake of fixing what's broken.
I can relate by having been exactly where you are now - thinking I was working toward fixing what was wrong by encouraging deeper and deeper exploration of our fantasies and sexual limits while failing to realize that I was only making things worse through the application of insane amounts of pressure on her which served only to kill the communication that much further and further down the cycle we went.
I too regularly used porn as an escape from the fact that bedding the same person every single night could only be but so interesting and would never offer the variation and excitement of sleeping with all of the images I was consuming. It seems obvious but in a lot of ways, all you can do to keep it interesting is space it out.
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I could be way off the mark but I doubt it. Stop beating it everyday, stop pushing her and see what remains. It's probably a hell of a lot more than you can currently see.
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"Porn is a zoo of exotic animals that becomes boring upon ownership." -Nersesian
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