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Originally Posted by snowy
Ever thought about discussing this with a third party (besides us) to break yourselves out of the stalemate you've found yourself in? You might consider looking for a marital/family therapist with a background in sex therapy. Even if you can't ultimately resolve the issue, therapy may help you to come to terms with why it is the way it is, and help your wife express why she isn't interested in sex all that much.
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Seconded. You seem like a textbook case of a couple in need of a family, marital, or sex therapist.
Also, I don't know if I believe in this advice, but if I channel my inner Dan Savage I would say that if you two fail to achieve a reasonable sex life after making a real effort at therapy, you have to consider different options. Sex isn't something that should be grudgingly handed over by one partner as rarely as possible. Furthermore, sex is an integral part of a relationship and it's absence is not something that can be overlooked. In that case, my guess is Savage would tell you to either find your sex elsewhere (pay for it or through no-strings-attached relationships) or seek a divorce.
I wish you luck.