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Baraka_Guru · 10-07-2010, 06:56 AM

It comes down to the net effect of the relationship. It's difficult to take any one aspect and ask yourself, "Is this too much?" If you are, overall, miserable and you don't see the relationship as salvageable, then you should end it.

One measure I've read is that having sex less than once per month is considered a "sexless relationship." Healthier relationships will average out to sex at least once every couple of weeks, but often more frequently. If you've gone a year, something is wrong.

The worst thing I ever did was not end a relationship for fear of hurting the other person. Staying in a bad relationship will do far more harm than ending one. The damage can be long-lasting. Do yourself a favour: End it as humanely as you think is bearable, but end it.

You are capable of finding a far better relationship. This isn't working out. Don't let the good stuff fool you if you are miserable overall.

For example, why are you posting here about it? You know something isn't right.

Don't expect people to change. You can only reasonably change yourself. I think you should focus on that.

10-07-2010, 06:56 AM	#24 (permalink)
Baraka_Guru warrior bodhisattva Super Moderator Location: East-central Canada	It comes down to the net effect of the relationship. It's difficult to take any one aspect and ask yourself, "Is this too much?" If you are, overall, miserable and you don't see the relationship as salvageable, then you should end it. One measure I've read is that having sex less than once per month is considered a "sexless relationship." Healthier relationships will average out to sex at least once every couple of weeks, but often more frequently. If you've gone a year, something is wrong. The worst thing I ever did was not end a relationship for fear of hurting the other person. Staying in a bad relationship will do far more harm than ending one. The damage can be long-lasting. Do yourself a favour: End it as humanely as you think is bearable, but end it. You are capable of finding a far better relationship. This isn't working out. Don't let the good stuff fool you if you are miserable overall. For example, why are you posting here about it? You know something isn't right. Don't expect people to change. You can only reasonably change yourself. I think you should focus on that. __________________ Knowing that death is certain and that the time of death is uncertain, what's the most important thing? —Bhikkhuni Pema Chödrön Humankind cannot bear very much reality. —From "Burnt Norton," Four Quartets (1936), T. S. Eliot Last edited by Baraka_Guru; 10-07-2010 at 06:58 AM..