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monkeysugar · 10-03-2010, 10:03 PM

Are you *trying* to get him to dump you? If not...read the responses to this thread, many, many times, and take them to heart. You're well on your way to becoming the psycho ex-girlfriend that he really doesn't want to talk about with the new girl he ends up banging after he kicks your ass to the curb. It might end up being the friend of his that you're obsessing about him sleeping with/being emotionally attatched/ etc. etc. etc....that almost certainly won't be the case, but who knows...maybe he ends up doing it out of spite against you, to make you feel better that you were right. Actually that's 99.999% not going to happen, especially when he's explained that very thoroughly and very explicitly on many different occasions that he is not interested in her. Take some solace in the following fact: *if he were to be bumping uglies with her, or anyone else he would not still be with you.* End. Of. Story. They are friends, he doesn't want to fuck her, get over it. I know that's harsh, but it's the truth...and that's putting it nicely. While you're at it, read the responses to the rest of the threads you've started. Re-read them, actually read them for their content and intended messages, not whatever rationalization for your actions that you somehow can find in them while completely ignoring the general and overall consensus that you really and truly just need to grow up and get over your insecurities, or dump his ass and move on with your life, and let him do the same. He has been deployed/assigned somewhere far away from you. Do you really think that doesn't affect him at all? He's the one who is actually off somewhere away from everyone he knows, with little to no influence on where he ends up going. Do you really think that questioning his every action and invading his privacy in order to "call him out" on something he's told you he's not even doing are helping his situation at all? I'd imagine it's probably making the situation a lot worse. You could listen to him, and believe him, or you could just keep doing what you're doing and drive him away completely. Or you could just keep going on yahoo answers and keep getting the answers that you want to get, and completely disregard the information, advice and experience that you get here. When all is said and done, it all comes down to the same issues, the same story, the same people, the same threads, and nobody here is stupid enough to believe it's anything different. Seriously, it doesn't seem like you're actually looking for answers. You're looking for support and rationalization for your decisions. Sorry, not gonna happen here. So gain/learn something from the people who are actually trying to help you, or keep doing what you're doing and drive him completely out of your life.

10-03-2010, 10:03 PM	#36 (permalink)
monkeysugar I'll be on the veranda, since you're on the cross. Location: Rand McNally's friendliest small town in America. They must have strayed from the dodgy parts...	Are you trying to get him to dump you? If not...read the responses to this thread, many, many times, and take them to heart. You're well on your way to becoming the psycho ex-girlfriend that he really doesn't want to talk about with the new girl he ends up banging after he kicks your ass to the curb. It might end up being the friend of his that you're obsessing about him sleeping with/being emotionally attatched/ etc. etc. etc....that almost certainly won't be the case, but who knows...maybe he ends up doing it out of spite against you, to make you feel better that you were right. Actually that's 99.999% not going to happen, especially when he's explained that very thoroughly and very explicitly on many different occasions that he is not interested in her. Take some solace in the following fact: if he were to be bumping uglies with her, or anyone else he would not still be with you. End. Of. Story. They are friends, he doesn't want to fuck her, get over it. I know that's harsh, but it's the truth...and that's putting it nicely. While you're at it, read the responses to the rest of the threads you've started. Re-read them, actually read them for their content and intended messages, not whatever rationalization for your actions that you somehow can find in them while completely ignoring the general and overall consensus that you really and truly just need to grow up and get over your insecurities, or dump his ass and move on with your life, and let him do the same. He has been deployed/assigned somewhere far away from you. Do you really think that doesn't affect him at all? He's the one who is actually off somewhere away from everyone he knows, with little to no influence on where he ends up going. Do you really think that questioning his every action and invading his privacy in order to "call him out" on something he's told you he's not even doing are helping his situation at all? I'd imagine it's probably making the situation a lot worse. You could listen to him, and believe him, or you could just keep doing what you're doing and drive him away completely. Or you could just keep going on yahoo answers and keep getting the answers that you want to get, and completely disregard the information, advice and experience that you get here. When all is said and done, it all comes down to the same issues, the same story, the same people, the same threads, and nobody here is stupid enough to believe it's anything different. Seriously, it doesn't seem like you're actually looking for answers. You're looking for support and rationalization for your decisions. Sorry, not gonna happen here. So gain/learn something from the people who are actually trying to help you, or keep doing what you're doing and drive him completely out of your life. __________________ I've got the love of my life and a job that I enjoy most of the time. Life is good. Last edited by monkeysugar; 10-04-2010 at 02:27 AM..