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chelle21689 · 10-03-2010, 08:42 AM

No, it's not the same girl. It's some other person. Like I said, I have a really hard time to not snoop and I even told him to change the password because I know that I would snoop. Honestly, I know everyone thinks its wrong but I don't see anything wrong if he looks into my account because I have nothing to hide.

I guess I am confused at who's advice to take b/c if I come to this board everyone tells me I'm wrong. If I go to another board everyone tells me the opposite. I thought about it, and I called him and apologized and he said that it's okay as long as I understand. On my defense, when I wasn't snooping I did find an inappropriate picture of him sent to another girl years ago so I think that's when it started. But it never happened again after it hurt. But I guess I started snooping and be jealous if he told a girl how hot she was...but really, you don't do that in a relationship. But I guess if he was as "insecure" as me as you guys would say I am, if he looked through my stuff he'd find something to question, be jealous of, and worry if guys told me how hot I was and to get with them even if I declined or if they were being a little flirty.

We have been doing really good for a couple of months until the whole cell phone thing. We both didn't want to talk about this b/c we didn't want the good time to end. I think he realizes how hard it is but I guess I should try to remember that he really wants to be with me (even though you guys think I'm crazy lol..)

10-03-2010, 08:42 AM	#21 (permalink)
chelle21689 Tilted	No, it's not the same girl. It's some other person. Like I said, I have a really hard time to not snoop and I even told him to change the password because I know that I would snoop. Honestly, I know everyone thinks its wrong but I don't see anything wrong if he looks into my account because I have nothing to hide. I guess I am confused at who's advice to take b/c if I come to this board everyone tells me I'm wrong. If I go to another board everyone tells me the opposite. I thought about it, and I called him and apologized and he said that it's okay as long as I understand. On my defense, when I wasn't snooping I did find an inappropriate picture of him sent to another girl years ago so I think that's when it started. But it never happened again after it hurt. But I guess I started snooping and be jealous if he told a girl how hot she was...but really, you don't do that in a relationship. But I guess if he was as "insecure" as me as you guys would say I am, if he looked through my stuff he'd find something to question, be jealous of, and worry if guys told me how hot I was and to get with them even if I declined or if they were being a little flirty. We have been doing really good for a couple of months until the whole cell phone thing. We both didn't want to talk about this b/c we didn't want the good time to end. I think he realizes how hard it is but I guess I should try to remember that he really wants to be with me (even though you guys think I'm crazy lol..) Last edited by chelle21689; 10-03-2010 at 08:59 AM..