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Originally Posted by LAW2
After many years of a monogamous relationship followed by marriage I am single and dating again. I've had and have lots to learn about woman and dating.
Since the divorce I've had one GF and was like a teenager and didn't think about protection. I've had a vasectomy so protection from pregnancy wasn't an issue but there are other things to consider.
Now I find myself dating more woman and getting closer to being physical with them.
My question is what to do about the condom? Use one or not? We are all in our mid to late 30's with kids so is there some implied health? I would like to think yes but I might be naive and stupid.
Do you ask your partner if they are clean or take no chances and use a condom? I know that sounds like a simple question but after 16 years of no condom sex its hard to imagine going back.
Thanks for your responses.
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My standard phrase when I was still dating (not all that long ago) was to say, "I hope you don't mind, and I am sure it's probably superfluous, but where I come from, it's considered good manners for me to officially let you know that I am clean and free of any communicable diseases." Straightforward, leaves a nice, wide, open door....
As for condoms, doesn't matter what age you are. Use 'em. Use 'em every time, until such time as you have been with someone long enough to really trust that they are free of any communicable disease and are truly using alternate forms of birth control (though I guess this latter is obviated in your case). Nobody loves condom sex, but it's just how life is, my friend.