James1087

Hello everyone,

First time poster so a bit of background.
23 male but sorta inexperienced in sex, only been with a couple girls. Anyways Im seeing this girl right now and Im having trouble sexually.
We tryed having sex once but it didnt work out well as I wasnt able to get hard. Thought it was performance anxiety as shes a bit older than me. Or that something was really wrong with me.

Anyways heres the problem.
First I dont get hard with her without physical stimulation. I am not sure if this is normal or not for someone my age, but i make out with her, feel her up, finger her, but I dont get hard at all.

So this situation occurs. Im in my car with her and she starts giving me a dry handjob. but shes not very good at it and it takes about 3-5 minutes before i start getting aroused. Finally I start getting hard and she keeps going but i cant ejaculate. She starts moving onto a blowjob but it felt terrible. I instantly went soft. She stays around the tip and felt kinda painful. I didnt tell her at all though and I said it felt really good I just didnt want to cum in my car. But this, combined with the failed sex attempt she thinks im lieing and thats im just nervous around her.

So Im not sure what I should do. She says stuff like dont worry about it maybe im just not the right girl for you and stuff like that and it makes me feel terrible. Shes older than me and we joke around that shes experienced and shell teach me some new things. Shes really open minded but I feel really uncomfortable telling her shes bad at oral sex. I dont know how to bring it up.

I also dont know how to make it better, I was thinking of bringing some kind of lube with me but i dont know if that would be kinda creepy or not. and I dont even know what to buy or where to get it.

Anyways please help I really dont know what to do.