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I will add that I fine it odd about the people who can't be alone. At my old job I would try my best to hide during lunch breaks and read my book or listen to music but some chatter box would always seek me out. Why do some people feel so compelled to never be alone? is it not being comfortable in yourself? embarrassment that people will think your a loser if your not with other people? probably the reverse thoughts they think of me when I am alone.
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I think it largely has to do with introversion vs. extroversion. The best metaphor I've ever heard was as a battery; introverts batteries are "in use" and slowly draining in the company of many people, and the ultimately need "alone time" to recharge their battery - whether that's in the shower, alone in a room, on a bike ride in the country, etc. On the other end, extroverts batteries are "in use" and slowly draining when alone; their ideas go unshared, their desire for conversation goes unsated. Their battery is recharged by being around people, having conversations, etc.
There's naturally a spectrum, and every extrovert needs time alone eventually, as does every introvert need time with people. But if you're strongly one or the other (I'm strongly extroverted) then being alone seems like a phenomenal waste of time. I have things I want to share with people - if there weren't any people to share it with, then I'd likely have to off myself. It has nothing to do with being uncomfortable with myself or thinking I was being judged for being alone, but a strong desire to be in the company of other humans, regardless of what I'm actually doing.