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Originally Posted by ngdawg
You would think, yet when I hear or see newer moms, I can only think how UNorganized they are! Anyone with multiples (and a lick of common sense) will tell you all you have to do is think about how to handle things in advance.
And first time moms many times think TOO much-they boil everything, they establish timed activities, they allow a little 10 lb blob of humanity to overtake their existence instead of conforming the kid's existence into their lives. There's a compromise most new moms don't see. Having a baby (or two or three) will change many things, but shouldn't bring anything to a screeching halt.
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Ohhh, yeah. I see this all the time in my work.
What's fascinating is that I have one mom who was really on board with getting her daughter to develop as fast as possible, and was doing exactly what you described above. Then she took a new job that requires her to travel a lot, and so dad has kind of taken over on the parenting. Since that switch, Mom has been more interested in "keeping her baby." We've really struggled with getting this one potty-trained; we think she's grasping the concept but then she will backslide. And guess when that backslide happens? After Mom comes home from a trip, of course.
I really think having children requires three kinds of resources: emotional, social, and financial. Personally, I'm waiting until all three converge to take that step, and it might be a while if my husband goes to graduate school.