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chelle21689 · 08-30-2010, 05:15 PM

It's probably a long long time to think about, but it's just something that came to my mind. I've been with my bf for 5 years (2 years long distance) since I was 16 (he was 17).

He moved across the country and he ended up joining the Army Reserve. I was supposed to move a year ago like I originally planned when I finished my Associate's...but I never saved money and I felt an Associate's degree wasn't enough. I decided to go back to school and it'll take my another 2 years (my parents are 100% supporting me financially for it). Within my 2 years of school my bf will be busy at language school, and then deployed October 2011 up to 9 months.

When he gets back I should be done with my degree. I want to move, but there is a chance he could be sent to language school for another year again and another deployment. I don't know if I want to move only to be with him a short while, then have him gone and me by myself with no family or friends.

I'm not ready to get married, he's not either...not right now. If we were married I guess it'd make it easier to be together while he's in language school but not the deployment.

Thoughts?

08-30-2010, 05:15 PM	#1 (permalink)
chelle21689 Tilted	What to do? Ending LDR to be together seems fuzzy It's probably a long long time to think about, but it's just something that came to my mind. I've been with my bf for 5 years (2 years long distance) since I was 16 (he was 17). He moved across the country and he ended up joining the Army Reserve. I was supposed to move a year ago like I originally planned when I finished my Associate's...but I never saved money and I felt an Associate's degree wasn't enough. I decided to go back to school and it'll take my another 2 years (my parents are 100% supporting me financially for it). Within my 2 years of school my bf will be busy at language school, and then deployed October 2011 up to 9 months. When he gets back I should be done with my degree. I want to move, but there is a chance he could be sent to language school for another year again and another deployment. I don't know if I want to move only to be with him a short while, then have him gone and me by myself with no family or friends. I'm not ready to get married, he's not either...not right now. If we were married I guess it'd make it easier to be together while he's in language school but not the deployment. Thoughts?