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Snapping out of it doesn't mean waking up and finding yourself where you want to be. It means shifting your perspective, which can happen in a second...but you have to maintain it or you'll fall back into old patterns. I've found myself in a bad position myself; I know what it's like to seem to have nothing. If I didn't keep trying to hold onto a more constructive perspective, I wouldn't have snapped out of it myself.
And the metaphor of a ship without a rudder isn't a comment on your character; it's a comment on your actions. I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt that you have the character to be the captain of your own ship. You have yet to convince me, but I haven't made a judgement on you yet.
I wasn't trying to insult you; I was making an observation based on what limited information I have in this thread. If you took it as an insult, then maybe you haven't told us enough about you and your situation. Either that, or maybe my opinion should give you something to think about.
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Knowing that death is certain and that the time of death is uncertain, what's the most important thing?
—Bhikkhuni Pema Chödrön
Humankind cannot bear very much reality.
—From "Burnt Norton," Four Quartets (1936), T. S. Eliot
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