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The_Jazz · 08-12-2010, 08:35 AM

You still don't get it - this isn't about being honest and upfront about their relationship. This is about intentionally inflicting emotional harm on someone who's recently suffered a loss. Let's say that her father, who for the sake of argument she was very close to, died suddenly last week. Does the decent human being who's no longer interested in a romantic relationship break up with her, pregnancy and miscarriage aside for the moment?

No, he doesn't.

Being honest and upfront about his intentions are only going to hurt her further at this point. This seems to me to be a white lie told with the best of intentions. Again, the Campsite Rule seems to be incredibly relevant here.

Edited to add - not that it's relevant, but it's glaringly obvious that you DO actually have a low opinion of Film Study majors. But that's ok, I do too. They're up there with Philosphy majors. They're not really prepared to do much in the real world, except, you know, communicate ideas. Which, it turns out, is a skill that translates to lots of fields. But you'd never think that a Russian History major would amount to much, yet here I am.

08-12-2010, 08:35 AM	#95 (permalink)
The_Jazz Asshole Administrator Location: Chicago	You still don't get it - this isn't about being honest and upfront about their relationship. This is about intentionally inflicting emotional harm on someone who's recently suffered a loss. Let's say that her father, who for the sake of argument she was very close to, died suddenly last week. Does the decent human being who's no longer interested in a romantic relationship break up with her, pregnancy and miscarriage aside for the moment? No, he doesn't. Being honest and upfront about his intentions are only going to hurt her further at this point. This seems to me to be a white lie told with the best of intentions. Again, the Campsite Rule seems to be incredibly relevant here. Edited to add - not that it's relevant, but it's glaringly obvious that you DO actually have a low opinion of Film Study majors. But that's ok, I do too. They're up there with Philosphy majors. They're not really prepared to do much in the real world, except, you know, communicate ideas. Which, it turns out, is a skill that translates to lots of fields. But you'd never think that a Russian History major would amount to much, yet here I am. __________________ "They that can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety." - B. Franklin "There ought to be limits to freedom." - George W. Bush "We have met the enemy and he is us." - Pogo Last edited by The_Jazz; 08-12-2010 at 08:39 AM..