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Originally Posted by Cimarron29414
Jazz,
I have to disagree with you here. Re-read post 19. This is not a woman who has his best interests even on her radar. A woman who lives at home with her parents while going to school for a useless degree, while ringing up student loans that will never be paid off by such a useless degree, who gets knocked up and decides the best thing for her future is to raise the child, effectively abandoning her useless degree but keeping the student loans so that he can pay them off with his hot new masters degree....well, I can't envision a good future with this person.
If you can't envision a future with someone, you break up with them immediately. You owe it to yourself and them.
Sorry soma, I just envision you as thinking of 20 reasons why it's not the right time and 2 years from now, you are unhappily married to the mother of your child(ren), no support from your parents, and drowning in student loan debt. There really is nothing like getting up to go to your "9-5" knowing you have to work until 11:30 for the student loan corporation - courtesy of baby momma.
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No, I read that. After all, I got all pissy about people not reading the entire thread back in #58, and I made sure to reaquaint myself with the entire situation before my last post.
And this isn't about whether or not she's got his best interest at heart. Or your low opinion of film studies majors (FYI - I've got what I'm sure you would consider a "worthless" degree yet I'm arguably the most successful person on this board. Go figure.). Or even if he should stay with her long term. I consider those questions either asked and answered or immaterial.
At this point, we're at "WHAT'S THE RIGHT THING TO DO UNDER THE CIRCUMSTANCES". That's regardless of how she's treated him or if she sees a future for them. If you carefully (or even not so carefully) reread my #90 post, you'll see that I don't think they have any future together. But the woman just suffered a miscarriage and you want her kicked to the curb. Where's your compassion? Where's your sense of human decency? Don't you see that if soma breaks up with her now, he's simply adding to her sense of loss?
Hopefully you will never know anyone who suffers a miscarriage (and suffer is the right term). It's a horrible, tragic thing. Soma needs to treat her as a friend and be there as needed. He does NOT need to put his penis anywhere near her, but he needs to be there emotionally for her. Even if he doesn't share her sense of loss, he's part of the cause of it. Decent people don't inflict intentional harm on others.
As we all know, Plan9 isn't human, let alone decent, so he shouldn't feel insulted.