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On the original topic, it's less about taking sides and more about identifying what the real problem is. This woman isn't the problem, nor is it the amount of time he spends with her. Going by what you've told us, I believe the real issue is that you're jealous because she gets to see him so much more than you do. And if we take that as given, there's no point in dumping on boyfriend or even speculating on what he might or might not be doing or feeling. Doing that is like trying to fix your car by replacing the wheels on your bicycle. You're not addressing the issue.
So address the issue. Learn to cope.
On your friend's issue, I don't think there's anything wrong with changing the subject if you feel we've addressed your original concerns, but at the same time I'd have to know a whole lot more about the situation before I'd be willing to comment. Without knowing the people and relationship dynamics involved it's impossible to say whether or not the situation is on the level.
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I wake up in the morning more tired than before I slept
I get through cryin' and I'm sadder than before I wept
I get through thinkin' now, and the thoughts have left my head
I get through speakin' and I can't remember, not a word that I said
- Ben Harper, Show Me A Little Shame
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