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You have been in this relationship since you were an adolescent and you are viewing it through adolescent eyes, rather than adult eyes. This is ALL you have known your entire adult life. You protect it because it is familiar and you bind yourself to adolescent feelings about this relationship because you were an adolescent when it started. All of that is normal.
The fact is, he is now a grown man. It is far easier for him to leave you and start in his town than to remain committed to you and abstain from temptations (which do not exist in this woman you mention). The fact that he is still in this relationship with you, under these difficult circumstances, is a tribute to his character. Admittedly, he may be in this relationship for the same reasons I listed above for you, it binds him to a familiar, easier time. However, your feelings and discussions with him are not constructive in any way.
Personally, I believe him. Personally, I believe you are making his life harder than it needs to be. Personally, I believe a distracted soldier is a dead soldier.
"Control" is an illusion we create to make it through our lives. You have no control over his choices. He will cheat if he wants, and you will be powerless to stop that. He could live in the same house as you and still cheat. You can have a million conversations with him about your fears, and that won't change the fact that he can do what he wants - so leave it be. Be with him because he makes you happiest, and for no other reason. If your jealousy through distance is making you so unhappy, leave him. It's that simple.
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