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Well, you have a couple of options:
- you can let the jealousy get the better of you, pitch a fit, and insist that he stop seeing her so often, or at least stop staying over at her house. Will that really accomplish what you want, which is to know that he is not tempted by a relationship with someone else? Or will you feel controlling and insecure and still wonder what he's doing and who he's with?
- you can continue to be jealous and seethe about it but not let on so you'll look all trusting while inside you're writhing with insecurity.
- you can look at the root of the jealousy and see if there's anything to be done about it. Speaking from experience, jealousy is something that can be conquered, but it takes a willingness to look unflinchingly at your insecurities and their roots, and then ruthlessly retrain your thinking. It also generally takes the support and cooperation of your partner. Which is hard to get when he's so far away.
The bottom line, as Martian says, is either he'll be faithful or he won't. What's up to you - what's always up to you - is how you react to whatever the situation happens to be.
I'm also going to point out the obvious, that it sounds like you are both pretty young, and that you started dating in high school. Nothing against that (my college roommate and her boyfriend from sophomore year have been married for 15 years now) but when you add to that the fact that you've spent almost half of your relationship living very far away from each other, well....that's a tough place to be. It must take a lot of commitment.
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